Mother’s Day nudge
Posted by kasper on Thursday, May 8th, 2008 at 12:59 under General
I just got home from another enjoyable Parenting Group session. Even though we do have an agenda for each session we tend to do a whole lot of socializing. I really love these women! I’m not a very out-going person and had to really push myself to even attend my first few sessions. It feels so comfortable and look forward to seeing everyone every week. In my day to day life I feel isolated, but that’s just me not being social. I really don’t have any friends, just people I like that I work with pretty much. They would get together but I guess I give off some sort of air or something because (with the exception of a group that has now fallen apart) they never seem to invite me along. When I was moving back in October, I’d only been attending this Parenting Group for all of like 3 weeks when 2 ladies offered to help me pack or look after baby D so that it would be easier for me to pack. That’s just the kind of women we’re talking about here. Something I’m really not used to. In the past, and we’re talking about the 9th/10th grade here, I had best friends who all disappeared when I was going through a rough patch because apparently I was too moody. Isn’t that exactly when you need your friends?! Yeah, mine dumped me. I guess I never really got over it. Since then I have had a couple of friends who’ve just used my friendship and never reciprocated. I’d say I’ve become pretty bitter about the whole idea of friendship and now find myself wary of what the other person wants from me. Unfortunately I won’t be able to keep going to this group once I go back to work since they meet Thursday mornings from 9-11. I’m hoping that when they get together for the odd dinner out that they’ll remember me.
When I’m attending my group, I put baby D in the nursery with a sitter who also looks after a couple of other kids as well. When I picked him up after today’s group the sitter handed me a craft that she would’ve done with the other kids. It was a can covered in construction paper with 2 construction paper flowers sticking out attached to straws. The flowers said ‘Happy Mother’s Day’. Awwwh. I just think that is the coolest thing ever! I have to admit that I was a little disappointed last year with my very first Mother’s Day. Hubby’s just become so complacent with special days. I got a generic Mother’s Day card and that was it. I was at least hoping for a 1st Mother’s Day card or something more meaningful. I certainly tried to make a big deal out of Father’s Day for him. So I was a bitch and called him to say (besides other things) that I really hoped that baby D’s once a week sitter didn’t make more out of Mother’s Day than he would. I mean I think I’ve managed to get the day to myself, since he was prepared to visit his mother this Sunday. I stupidly asked why he wanted to visit and he told me ‘because it’s Mother’s Day’. Uh hello? Your wife is also a mother last time I checked! He’s called me materialistic in the past, but I’m not asking for diamonds and pearls (though I will gladly accept any that might be given) or anything. Just looking for a day when he pampers me a bit and shows me that he’s thankful that I’m his son’s Mother. I don’t think that’s unreasonable is it? I mean that is what the day’s about right?
You have reached the blog of kasper. I live outside of Toronto, Ontario, Canada,
and have been blogging since 1999. I am newly married, though have been with the same guy for nearly 13 years.
We have a son (baby D) born April 13th, 2007 and have all moved into our first home. Though I don't tend
to stick to one thing, I've been known to enjoy the Sims2, knitting, webdesign, reading, music and movies.
